Others, Before Me…part 4

I have worked with a few people who couldn’t get enough of themselves, as I am sure you may have.  Every accomplishment, large or insignificant, is proudly spoken, as they regale the masses with their feats, accomplishments or abilities.

They were truly legends, in their own minds.

Even in the Church, we hear it.  How many people were “saved” after hearing my message, all the healing when I laid hands on them, how I served, what I did, how much better my church is than yours, my doctrine is superior, look at all I have…blah, blah, blah.

After reading two things that love is, we now see a few of what love is not.


When we are full of ourselves and our accomplishments and let the world know about it, this is boasting.  Boasting speaks of me and how wonderful I am, bringing myself glory, exulting in all my accomplishments and all that I am. More than just bragging, it is all about self.  It has a very close cousin..pride…which is talked about below.  However, boasting is all out of the mouth.

I am the greatest, look at all I have done, you wish you could be me, no one is better than I, God obviously blesses me special…and on and on until they either shut up or the listener leaves to throw up.


Next, we see that love is not proud.  Pride.  This isn’t pride in your appearance or your country…this is haughtiness and arrogance.  Some Bible versions say, puffed up.  What I picture is a barnyard rooster, with his breast feathers all puffed out, strutting around the yard.  This is the pride that says, “Yeah, I am all that and everything else should bow before me.”

Pride can be shown without words.  A former co-worker of mine told me of a church he visited where during a social time, the pastor sat on a seat, high enough to see over the crowd, with a bunch of men standing around him…no one could get near him.  He just sat, smugly watching.

I don’t know who that pastor is, but his imitation of Jesus needs tweaking.  Actually, it needs an appearance.

Love contradicts the ideas of boasting and pride.   These two are ego feeders and have no place in the service of others.

Humility humility

Ever hear someone go on about how they were humbled?  Not like someone who actually was, but someone who got their hands a little dirty or actually spoke to a sinner, once.  If that was being humbled, I think all you did was give your pride a little time off.

I have heard others who simply self-denigrate, put themselves down and deny any well-doing on their own part.  You may have heard it…“Oh, I am just a humble servant of the Lord.  What I do is nothing.  I am pleased to serve with these feeble hands, two left feet and this hideously ugly face.  I am but a worm in the Kingdom.  All the glory is His.”  

Slap that jerk into reality.

Whoa!  Not really!  That would not be loving, at all.

Humility is not about putting oneself down as much as putting oneself aside.  While we can fully acknowledge our talents, abilities, hard work and our worth in God’s eyes, we can also let someone get credit even if we don’t.  We can also appreciate when someone gives us credit or praise, but do so without stockpiling it on our “greatest hits” resume’.  Whatever we do, whatever we accomplish, we don’t need to strut around with a banner that tells everyone how special or important we are.

Your thinking about slapping that person, aren’t you.  I am too, honestly. *sigh*

Moving on.

We can go through the list of what love is and is not, but I think the point is clear…love sets me aside in order to bless or serve someone else.  I will have a few more parts to this little series and will cover other portions of the well known Love Chapter.  There are some other points of love I see which I would like to share.

If you are reading this little series, hang in there.  Just a few more parts to go.



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4 thoughts on “Others, Before Me…part 4

  1. Oh, that spiritual pride. It is the cancer to the gospel. And, it happens subtlety in some cases, like a subversive slithering that eventually grows until the fall happens and many others are hurt by the debris.

  2. I have already responded John in regards to fleshy and Godly Pride with your Message about envy in Part 3 which you may have already read and yes it is True, all the negativity you are sharing about in others is showing their Carnal flesh which we are to put to death by The Spirit and we do this as we Aim to be Perfected in Love, both are confirmed in the Scriptures below.

    We are to work out our Salvation but not meaning work for it.

    God tells us to put our Carnal flesh to death……..

    Romans 8 :12-15 Therefore, brothers we have an obligation but it is not to the Sinful nature to live according to it or if you live according to the Sinful nature you will die but if by the Spirit you put to death the misdeeds of the body you will live because those who are led by the Spirit of God are sons of God.

    Colossians 3:4-6 When Christ, who is your life, appears then you also will appear with Him in glory. Put to death therefore whatever belongs to your earthly nature: sexual immorality, impurity, lust, evil desires and greed, which is idolatry. Because of these, the wrath of God is coming.

    Galatians 24 -26 And they that are Christ’s have crucified the flesh with the affections and lusts. if we live in the Spirit let us also walk in the Spirit. Let us not be desirous of vain glory, provoking one another, envying one another.

    2 Corinthians 7: 1 Having therefore these promises, dearly beloved, let us cleanse ourselves from all filthiness of the flesh and spirit, Perfecting Holiness in the fear of God

    God tells us to Aim to be Perfected in Love…….

    Matthew 5:48 Be ye therefore Perfect even as your Father which is in Heaven is Perfect

    Hebrews 6:1 Therefore leaving the principles of the doctrine of Christ let us go on unto Perfection not laying again the foundation of repentance from dead works and of Faith toward God.

    Philippians 3:14-16 I press toward the mark for the prize of the high calling of God in Christ Jesus. Let us therefore as many as be Perfect be thus minded: and if in any thing ye be otherwise minded God shall reveal even this unto you. Nevertheless where to we have already attained let us walk by the same rule, let us mind the same thing.

    2Timothy 3:17 That the Man of God may be Perfect, throughly furnished unto all good works.

    1John 4:16-19 And we have known and believed the Love that God hath to us. God is Love; and he that dwelleth in Love dwelleth in God, and God in him. Herein is our Love made Perfect, that we may have boldness in the day of judgment: because as He is, so are we in this world. There is no fear in Love but Perfect Love casteth out fear because fear hath torment. He that feareth is not made perfect in Love. We Love Him because He first Loved us.

    1 John 2:4-6 He that saith I know Him and keepeth not His commandments is a liar and the truth is not in him. But whoso keepeth His word in him verily is the Love of God Perfected: hereby know we that we are in Him. He that saith hebideth in Him ought himself also so to walk even as He walked.

    2Corinthians 13:11 Finally, brethren, farewell. Be Perfect, be of good comfort, be of one mind, live in Peace and the God of Love and Peace shall be with you.

    God tells us when we are Born Again we no longer Sin……….

    1 John 3:9 No one who is Born of God will continue to Sin, because God’s seed remains in him; he cannot go on Sinning, because he has been Born of God.

    1John 5 18-20 We know that no one who is Born of God Sins but He who was Born of God keeps him, and the evil one does not touch him.

    God tells us to reckon ourselves dead to Sin not to say we will or do Sin because what we believe in our heart dominates our thoughts and becomes our words and actions

    Romans 6:11 Likewise reckon ye also yourselves to be dead indeed unto Sin but alive unto God through Jesus Christ our Lord . Proverbs 23:7a K.J.V

    John 8:34-36 Jesus replied, “I tell you the truth, everyone who Sins is a slave to Sin. Now a slave has no permanent place in the family but a son belongs to it forever. So if the Son sets you free, you will be free indeed.

    Romans 6:22-23 But now being made free from Sin and become Servants to God ye have your fruit unto Holiness and the end Everlasting Life. For the wages of Sin is death but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.

    What people get confused about John, are weaknesses and shortcomings, which we all have but they are not judged as Sin, such as Anger when it comes from grief or confusion is not a Sin but we do not hold onto bitterness an resentment and seek revenge instead of forgiving if we do it is Sin. Jesus came to heal not condemn , Man judges critically and without Love and Compassion because he looks on the outside but God sees the heart and knows the motivation or the reason.

    1John 3 – No one who lives in Him keeps on Sinning. No one who continues to Sin has either seen Him or known Him. Dear children do not let anyone lead you astray. He who does what is right is Righteous, just as He is Righteous.

    Romans 6:18-20 Being then made free from Sin, ye became the servants of Righteousness.

    1 John 2:4-6 He that saith, I know Him, and keepeth not His Commandments, is a liar, and the truth is not in him. But whoso keepeth His word, in him verily is the Love of God Perfected: hereby know we that we are in Him. He that saith he abideth in Him ought himself also so to walk, even as He walked.

    Colossians 3:4-6 When Christ, who is your life appears then you also will appear with Him in glory. Put to death therefore whatever belongs to your earthly nature sexual immorality, impurity, lust, evil desires and greed, which is idolatry. Because of these the wrath of God is coming.

    1John 4:16-17 And we have known and believed the Love that God hath to us. God is Love and he that dwelleth in Love dwelleth in God and God in him. Herein is our Love made Perfect that we may have boldness in the day of Judgment: because as He is so are we in this world.

    Romans 6:6- 7 For we know that our old self was crucified with Him so that the body of Sin might be done away with, that we should no longer be Slaves to Sin because anyone who has died has been freed from Sin.

    We know John if we claim we have not Sinned and don’t need Salvation we are calling God liar but if we continue to Sin we are still in darkness (1John1) yes we can be-forgiven if we come to heart repentance but that means we reject Sin and no longer Sin by the empowering of The Holy Spirit as we can see clearly confirmed in Scripture. Paul explained the weakness of the flesh in Romans 7 but shared what to do about it in Romans8 and other Scriptures as noted above.

    Christian Love and Blessings – Anne.

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